(pictures of the couple below)
This is Mollena Williams, writer and sex educator, and Georg Friedrich Haas who is apparently a well known Austrian composer. They met each other on OK Cupid; he messaged her first, complimenting her profile and saying he wanted to “tame her”. Seems pretty standard for OK Cupid messages, but usually those messages don’t lead to a relationship. Anyway.
Some interesting quotes from the NYT article:
He will be the subject of a two-concertAmerican Immersion series on Wednesday and Friday presented by the Austrian Cultural Forum, which includes the American premiere of his “I can’t breathe,” a dirgelike solo trumpet memorial to Eric Garner.
In a joint appearance with his wife, who now goes by Mollena Williams-Haas, late last year at the Playground sexuality conference in Toronto, then in an interview this month in the online music magazine VAN, he has “come out,” as he put it, as the dominant figure in a dominant-submissive power dynamic. Mr. Haas has chosen to speak up, both because Ms. Williams-Haas’s sexual interests are widely known (her blog, The Perverted Negress, is not shy about kink and bondage) and because he hopes to embolden younger people, particularly composers, not to smother untraditional urges, as he did.
“Perverted Negress”...love yourself.
Ms. Williams-Haas, who described the situation as feminist because it is her choice, said, “I find intense fulfillment in being able to serve in this way.”
That’s valid, I guess.
She conceded the discomfort many may feel with a black woman willingly submitting to a white man. “It’s a struggle to say, ‘This is genuinely who I am,’” she said. But she added, “To say I can’t play my personal psychodrama out just because I’m black, that’s racist.”
I mean if they’re not engaging in race play, then I have no problem with a BW doing BDSM with a white man.
Esteemed not just as a composer but also as a teacher, Mr. Haas worried, partly joking, that his disclosures might give some pause to potential students. “I’m teaching privately; that means my students are alone with a pervert and three microtonally tuned pianos,” he said with a laugh. “But I never had the sense that this was a problem, and my sexuality is not a part of my teaching.”
I hope not.